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-7 Days- More Food SERVING AS A ROLE MODEL: A force for military women Advertisement Food Love often ends in a restaurant March 29, 2006 Email this Print this BY PATRICIA TALORICO WILMINGTON, DEL., NEWS JOURNAL While quite a number of "I do's" occur each year in restaurants, the hospitality industry's dirty little secret is there may be just as many "I don'ts."According to restaurateurs, dating coaches and relationship experts, the uncoupling of couples in public places happens more often than you might think.For the most part, dining out is a happy occasion.

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"Then I'd get upset with myself and mad at others." As Ms.

Newman discovered, it doesn't always pay to be a yes person.

While being eager to take on challenging assignments and assist team members when they need help are supposed to be qualities that help you get ahead, in reality, for the health of your career, she says, you have to just say no.

"That may sound selfish, but I really believe if you want to get ahead and keep from being overwhelmed, you have to be clear that your priorities come first," said Ms.

Newman, the author of a new book, The Book of No: 250 Ways to Say It - and Mean It and Stop People-Pleasing Forever.

"Saying no can pay benefits for your career." But that can be tough, because people are programmed all their lives to say yes, says Ms.

Newman, who, after leaving her advertising job to get a PhD now teaches social sciences and writing at Rutgers University in New Brunswick, N.J.

"It starts when our parents say 'if you say no, you are going to your room.' That's reinforced in school, where teachers expect agreement.

By the time we launch a career, we're conditioned to feel guilty about saying no," she explains.

And that's destined to hold you back.

"The most common source of overload in a job is the willingness to take on more and more and more, trying to look good.

Instead, you wind up staggering from the weight and looking not so good." So how do you say no to work and still keep on the good side of the boss and be seen as a te...

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Mental-health-related claims now account for up to 40 per cent of all disability insurance claims in Canada.

Yet, while awareness levels have risen in the workplace, stress levels are actually getting worse, says Maria Gonzales, vice-chairwoman of the roundtable and chairwoman of the MBA advisory committee at McGill.

In a report to be released in Vancouver on Friday, the roundtable advises employers that, while they are not expected to become "amateur shrinks," there is much more they can do to ease the stress levels in their own organizations and support those who do become ill.

A best-practices model to help employers improve the mental health and productivity of employees will be posted this Friday on the roundtable's website.

Its best practices include determining the extent of the problem by tracking the number of absences related to mental-health issues, supporting employees when they are ready to return to work and auditing current disability management practices "to isolate the reasons why some files have lingered," the report says.

As well, HR staff should be assessed for their attitudes and knowledge about mental disabilities, so they can assist managers in dealing with these cases.

Workplace practices should be examined by managers and employees alike to identify conditions increasing stress levels.

And constant interruptions, unrelenting work demands and long hours, which have all been identified b...